EB=Embryo Baby...we will keep it short for easier typing!!
So..we have headed into this EB already..let me address a few things first. It took us close to 2 1/2 years of trying before we added Charlie to our family. So when thinking of baby#2..we would like to start earlier in case it takes awhile again. We have more knowledge this time around so hopefully it wont be another 2 1/2 years before baby #2, but in case it does, we would like to get started. If it works the first time around great..they would be 20ish months apart..give or take 2 months. Some may think that is to close in age..and for some it may be, but if God allows it to work out like that then Bradley and I will be super excited.
We have chosen EB for our 2nd child for a few reasons. After my second IVF(invirto fertilization) we learned that for some reason my eggs had aged faster then the rest of me. Under a microscope my eggs look similar to those of a 40 yr old. I was 25 when I started trying to get pregnant..and at that time it was too late. I am as capable as any 40yr old out there to get pregnant..but we all know how hard that is. Before you all tell me of that one person that you know that was 40 and done with kids and gets pregnant, let me share some more!! My second IVF resulted in a pregnancy that last 8 1/2 weeks. After my d/c, the results showed my baby to be Trisomy 8..a condition that in MY baby's case was incompatible with life..not all Trisomy 8's are, but mines was. This further confirmed what my Dr had already shared. My bad eggs will almost always not "work" because they are "old", but when they do I am at a very high risk for a baby with syndromes or other problems. So after that miscarriage, that information helped me be at peace with having no "biological" children of my own.
Now that I have one adopted child I would like to have all my children be adopted. Lets face it..I don't exactly have a fantastic gene pool to pass onto my kids anyway!! If they are all adopted no one can toss out "I am the REAL child"!!..but I am sure at some point someone will toss out.."Ha..I grew in her belly, beat that!!"
Anyway, if I had my way I would adopt all my children that same way I did with Charlie. Minus that one heinous day in Abilene..I love the whole process and would love to do it again. Unfortunately, Charlie's adoption cost us close to $30,000. After spending close to $30,000 on IVF...the cheapest route helped us make our decision this time!
Let me breakdown the cost for you..and these are the recent facts I have been quoted by the Dr I go to...other places might be different..
IVF=$15,000ish..not really option due to my eggs
Adoption(domestically)=$30,000. The discount the 2nd time around it like $1,000
Egg Donation(donor egg mixed with my husband)=$12,000
Embryo Adoption=$5,000
So..any questions!! Embryo adoption..for clarification..is the adoption of 2 embryos from a couple that has gone through IVF and gotten pregnant and wants no more children and had chosen to "adopt" them out as opposed to discarding them. So this child..assuming the procedure works..will be carried in my tummy for hopefully 9 months..but have neither mine or Bradley's genes, DNA or genetic make-up.This is all confusing..I know! And no, we don't meet or even see pictures of people who we adopt the embryo from...just lots of info sheets on them.
When we made our decision, a large part for the embryo adoption was for me to be pregnant...let me stop you there. I mean this with no disrespect..I actually have no desire to get pregnant. Three years ago I got so wrapped up in "I must get pregnant", that for some time I think I lost sight of my actual goal...eventually I remembered the actual goal and that thought turned into.."I just want to be a mom". Pregnancy is not my goal, being a mom again is. I have learned that there are HUGE perks to mommy-hood minus pregnancy!! There is also a downside. Not giving birth means no paid maternity for me. My work only pays 6 weeks(they use short term disability for maternity leave) and then you can take up to 6 months by using your vacation time. I had 2 weeks notice when we got Charlie..so I took a 4 month unpaid leave. Even though I have been paying into short term disability for 3 years..since I did not give birth I did not get to use it..nice. I will also have the option to breastfeed..which will save a ton of money if the next child eats like Charlie did!!! There are more, but this post is getting way to long!!
I was going to update where we were but I will do that in a day or so..like I said this is way to long..especially when I have no pictures to include!!
Could never manage to get Charlie to smile at me. The TV was apparently way more interesting!!
I got beside them and just said "hey"..I was trying to get a smile. Well they both looked at me like this.....do they not have the same look. Charlie has perfected many of Bradley's looks! Bradley did not like this picture cause he looked mad..I did not think they looked mad..just serious/bored with me!!..and they both were actually having fun with "picture time", despite this look!
Could never manage to get Charlie to smile at me. The TV was apparently way more interesting!!
I got beside them and just said "hey"..I was trying to get a smile. Well they both looked at me like this.....do they not have the same look. Charlie has perfected many of Bradley's looks! Bradley did not like this picture cause he looked mad..I did not think they looked mad..just serious/bored with me!!..and they both were actually having fun with "picture time", despite this look!
